What is the book about?
If I asked you how well you really understand your partner, I wonder what you would score on a scale from 1-10?
Honestly, higher or lower than an 8?
Of all the people I asked, more than 90% scored 8 or lower.
Many times in our lives, we fail to acknowledge our partners in the way we should – only because we fail to understand what they’re trying to tell us.
WE ARE ALL FROM THE SAME PLANET, IT IS JUST THAT WE HAVE 3 BRAINS THAT OPERATE DIFFERENTLY BETWEEN MEN AND WOMAN.
How MEN & WOMEN FIT, finally understand your partner with the 3 Brains theory brings a revolutionary new way of looking at interpersonal relationships and how we as men and women can change our communication and social skills.
The 3 Brains theory (Head, Heart and Gut Brain) it is based upon connecting research that is done over the last 70 years. How our brains developed from early times, how they make decision and even more important in which hierarchy and how they communicate with each other.
In this book you will discover how our 3 brains determine your and yours partners life, how they are in charge of our emotions, decisions, communication, listening skills and how we handle conflicts. So actually, how successful, meaningful and happy/healthy our relationships are.
You will understand how our Head Brain provides us with logic and creativity, how our Heart Brain is the connector with other people and “drives” us with emotions like love, hatred and compassion and last but not least how our Gut Brain is in command of our survival and therefore, is able to overrule the other two. It is the “ME’ Brain. This is the killer of a healthy relationship if it is in command. I guide you through the 5 reasons why we are actually setup for having troubled relationships:
Reason One: We misunderstand how our Minds (1 vs 3 brains) Really Work
Reason Two: Our Gut and Heart Brain disagree about “ME” and” US” in Making Decisions
Reason Three: The Equality Problem: We have been taught to dominate or to submit
Reason Four: Gender Stereotypes: The Mars/Venus fallacy, the Hoax of Feminine and Masculine Traits
Reason Five: We Underestimate the Power of Trauma/Abuse and Bullying
And more important how to overcome those in the 17 rules and solutions for dealing with the 3 Brains.
Furthermore I touch the topic how our 3 brains develop in children and teenagers and how to deal with that.
Just like the topic we all like to know to how our 3 Brains are connected with sex or love making.
We can all learn what our preference is, and also recognize which is our partner’s, friend’s, colleague’s or manager’s dominant brain.
The beauty is we can educate our 3 Brains, they are not set in stone. My promise: Happy Healthy relationships are possible
What people said about the book:
Kris Borgaeve: The book gives a deep insight in how our brain(s) interact and store life experiences. Beyond the promise that is contained in the book’s title, I love the nuggets of insight because they help you understand yourself, and virtually anyone you connect with. Well written, spiced with catchy anecdotes and plenty of references.
Stuart Padley: It's not just another self help book. It's special.
Margaret Lawlor: Your book is fantastic Christoffel and would highly recommend and really enjoying my advanced training in clinical hypnosis you are so full of amazing insight and knowledge
Michelle Vos-Castle: Love it Really interesting Read in one sitting Like the mix of you and science Is light but interesting
Mª Teresa Alonso Jaén Owner & Founder of TLeadGo: This book is a great guideline to build emotional connection and happiness.
It brings a different perspective regarding gender differences and relationships, applicable not only to loving relationships but to family, business and friends’ relationships.
It really breaks up the stereotypical thinking, so much needed to navigate with the speed of change in our current environment.
We really need more than ever, to support and complete each other, embrace diversity, have an open heart, connected mind and feel centered.
Leadership is all about being in coherence in the way we think, feel and act, which has a direct impact on the way we relate to others.
By understanding how our three brains work, we understand ourselves and the ones around us is a better way and contribute to have healthier relationships, a healthier society.
Thank you Christoffel for your contribution to make the world a better place to live.
Highly recommended reading!